Most people today are using some form of social media. It can be a great way to keep friends and family up to date about what you’re doing, especially if you don’t see them often. Unwise use of social media, however, it can get you in a lot of trouble, especially during a divorce action.

The divorce process is a time when emotions run high and caution is thrown to the winds. People take to Facebook and Twitter to vent their angry feelings and make accusations against their soon-to-be ex. Doing so can feel cathartic at the time, but remember that it can also create evidence that may be used against you when matters like the following are being decided in court:

  • Child custody
  • Child support
  • Alimony/spousal maintenance
  • Property division

You may think you are simply venting to the people on your friends list, but things have a way of getting back to your spouse, even if your privacy settings are high. So here are some topics and situations to be avoided until long after the decree is issued- and maybe even later.

Act–and look–responsible

Everyone deserves a night out to decompress, but when you’re in the middle of a contentious divorce those acts of relaxation should stay off of social media. Pictures of you at a party, kissing someone other than your ex, and dancing with your shirt off can potentially make you seem like an unfit parent if they are presented to a judge. Nothing on social media should suggest that you are anything more than a calm and responsible person.

Vent in private

If you weren’t expecting your spouse to file for divorce, then you are probably shocked and angry. If another man or woman was involved, then you’re likely furious. Venting to your friends is fine, but don’t do it on social media. You may say something in the heat of the moment that can make you sound unhinged, hurting your chances at custody of your children or a generous parenting time arrangement.

Watch the spending

Perhaps you’ve been saving for ages to buy a new car, and figure that now is the time. A sleek new set of wheels will help you feel better after all the divorce aggravation. Resist the urge to show off your new purchase on Instagram or Facebook. Your spouse’s attorney could attempt to use those photos to suggest that you’re able to pay more spousal maintenance or child support than you really can.

The moment divorce becomes a reality it’s a good idea to review all of your earlier social media posts and remove anything that could be misinterpreted later on. Your New York divorce attorney can advise you on recommended additional measures you should take to prevent your ex from presenting a grossly exaggerated version of your shortcomings in a courtroom.