The first New Year’s after divorce is always difficult. Now that you and your spouse are no longer together, how are you going to handle the parties and social events that have been a New Year’s tradition for so long? Avoid them entirely? Talk to your ex and find out which ones he’s attending so that you can go to the other ones? And what about the children?
While it’s normal to be apprehensive, with some advance planning and a willingness to establish new traditions, you can still enjoy a memorable New Year’s celebration this year. And the year after!
Share the kids
Parenting plans typically address holiday visitation schedules, so you likely know whether or not the kids will be spending New Year’s Eve with you. If they are, then create an enjoyable and age-appropriate new tradition. Ideas include:
- Skating at Rockefeller Plaza
- Fireworks in Prospect Park
- Visit the Children’s Museum of Manhattan
If your former spouse has them this year, then you can create new traditions for yourself.
Let the past stay there
Now is the time to start afresh. If you are planning to go out with friends on New Year’s Eve, then try to avoid the places where you and your spouse used to go to celebrate. Let your co-celebrants decide the venue, or suggest a place you would never have visited while married. If you want to ring in the New Year on a healthy note, then why not try the New York Road Runners’ annual four-mile Midnight Run? If you’ve always been a fan of the Artist Formerly Known as Prince, then you can check out the Purple Rain Dance Party at Syndicated in Brooklyn.
We tend to do this every year, but when you’re facing a new chapter in your life, the right resolutions are especially significant.
Last year, with its tears, disappointments, arguments, and court dates, is over. You can do anything, be anything, that you couldn’t while married to your ex. While you should maintain as positive a relationship as possible with him or her, given the fact that you will be co-parents for a long time to come, it’s time to think about yourself. Do you want to go back to school to train for a better paying career? Join a club? Take a long-awaited trip to Europe? Now’s your chance!
Remember: divorce not only marks the end of your married life, but it also represents a new beginning for you. Like others before (and after you), you can find love, happiness, and success again. New Year’s is traditionally a time of renewal, so plan now for a unique celebration and a happy, healthy 2018. If you have any questions regarding divorce or visitation arrangements, then visit www.MyNewYorkCityLawyer.com to set up a free in-office initial consultation with Jayson Lutzky. He is a Bronx, NY attorney with 34+ years of experience. Call his office at 718-514-6619.