When you’re newly divorced, Valentine’s Day is one of those celebrations that can make you feel worse about being single. Everywhere you go in the city, lace-trimmed pink or red hearts are in store windows, roses and chocolates are central sale items, and romantic dinners for two are advertised in all the restaurants. You may even be getting emails from local businesses advertising romantic deals! There’s no escaping the tons of hype about romance and love.

It’s easy to become depressed on Valentine’s Day if you let yourself. But with a little planning, you can turn the meaning of the celebration on its head and have a wonderful time reveling in your freedom and independence. Here are some ideas to get you started.

Spend the day with your kids

If you have children, then spend the evening watching a family-themed movie with them. Younger children enjoy making things, so buy some red paper, markers, and similar items from a craft store and make paper hearts you can exchange with them later.

Invite single friends over

You probably know other people who don’t have a significant other on Valentine’s Day. Invite them over to your home for a potluck dinner and enjoy some bad romantic comedies on Netflix. You’ll avoid the restaurants crowded with happy couples and have fun while you’re at it. Laughter can be one of the best medicines for loneliness and depression, so give yourself permission to let loose.

Treat yourself

Do you like chocolate? Are roses your favorite flowers? Then treat yourself. You know you’re worth it. You can even save quite a bit of money if you wait until the day after Valentine’s to show how much you care. Speaking of treating, if you have a friend who is also single, why not send them flowers and candy too?


Volunteering is a recommended way of taking your mind off your own difficulties. Find out if a soup kitchen, food pantry, or other charity can use your help on or around Valentine’s Day. When you do something positive for others, the sense of happiness and self-satisfaction is much more fulfilling than a romantic table for two Le Bernardin (and a lot less expensive!)

Enjoy a wine or chocolate tasting

If you’re feeling extra decadent, then if why not head over to La Maison du Chocolat or check out wine tasting opportunities in the city, and invite some friends while you’re at it? You’ll enjoy yourself, discover new favorites, and support your fellow singles.

Valentine’s Day does not have to be the one day a year that divorced or separated New Yorkers stay indoors and lower the blinds. There are exciting and rewarding ways to celebrate while single, and you deserve every single one of them.

Jayson Lutzky is a Bronx, NY divorce and family law attorney. If you are considering divorce or are dealing with a matter in family court, then you should request a free consultation with a lawyer at Jayson Lutzky, P.C. Call 718-514-6619 to learn more or visit www.MyNewYorkCityLawyer.com.